Awake in the night.

Yesterday my sister and I met up with some childhood friends a lady who was a lifelong friend of my sister and her brother who was my best friend when I was young.

We had attended their mothers funeral a couple of weeks ago just as they had attended our mothers funeral in January. We had decided that it would be good to meet up for a coffee to reminisce about when we were young!

I was talking to my male friend who is a year younger than me about how we used play together all day and then sit and watch the sun go down every night talking nonstop, putting the world to rights.

He remembered it well and we both agreed that we had no idea how life would pan out for us. He has very poor health due to a spinal condition which has affected the nerves in his legs. He can’t walk very far but yet he’s accepting of his condition. 50 years on I realised why we had been such good friends, he is so positive and appreciates his life just as it is without question.

We were talking about the material things in life and I openly admitted that there was nothing that I have that I would be devastated to lose materially and he agreed. It is refreshing to talk to someone other than my husband who feels that way too. So much focus is placed on what people have or don’t have.

We all said our goodbyes and said we would meet up again. I came home and later decided to sort out some cupboards. Out went my acrylic paints , brushes and completed canvas paintings. They were a part of my past which I don’t need anymore, It felt so good to remove them and I feel cleansed. This may sound strange to some people but the less I have materially the lighter I feel.

I’m approaching another phase in my life, life should never stay still, life is fluid, life is precious and exciting and I can’t wait to see what comes next.

We are not defined by what we own or don’t own. We each have our own gifts inside us waiting to be discovered and I can’t wait to discover my next gift.

Elaine ❤️


  1. Sounds like some major shifts happening for you. A dear friend of mine is a minimalist too. She is happiest when her cupboards are empty! My question to her is ‘ why do you need cupboards then?’

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  2. Thanks for sharing such a sensitive personal story. I myself would like to move in that direction more but I personally feel stuck with the stuff I have accumulated. I have a hard time letting go of things I think we’ll someday I might use this. I’m happy you were able to move closer to this type of freedom! Have a good day 😊

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  3. Also it nice to hear you have a friend of the opposite sex. I’m happily married and have had female friends as I find they are more sensitive but it has never turned out well and now I don’t try and make new friends anymore beyond my online conversations. Hope I find any friend that shares and appreciates my sensitive nature other than my wife. Not to replace her of course but I do enjoy personal conversations… ok time to go to work. Take care!

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    1. I am extremely lucky to have found a man who totally gets me, my husband John is spiritual, kind, loving and understands me more than anybody else ever has ❤️ Male/female friendships have a very fine line, I’m fortunate that my old friend who I don’t see very often has a similar outlook to me as do many of my male and females friends on this site and I welcome their friendships and input regarding my blogs. 😊😇😊

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  4. I’m definitely not a minimalist – I do like to have my stuff around me, it’s a bit of an emotional security blanket I think 🙂

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  5. I got rid of all my acrylic paints and brushes and huge art table years ago when I discovered the magic of digital painting. Little by little, I’ve gotten rid of the crafts I pained (gave them to family members). Like you, I feel so much better having less stuff cluttering up my life.

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  6. Beautifully said, Elaine. I couldn’t agree more. Friendship, love, affection, sharing, involvement, that’s where true riches are. Yes, it’s nice to have material things, they make life easier, but that’s what they are meant to do, not become the end all be all for living.

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